You either love it, or hate it. Some women wait for this day all year to get a little extra spoiled by their significant other. For others it may be another reminder that another year passed and you’re #stillsingle. The wait at restaurants gets longer, everything turns bright pink and red, and the chocolate aisle at Target gets larger. But why do we wait till this one day a year to scream “I love you!” when we could say it every day of the year?
Spoiler alert: Valentine’s Day is on a Tuesday this year. (In case you didn’t know that it’s next week!) That means from tomorrow till Tuesday, the restaurants will be packed, the pressure on men will sky rocket, and Wednesday the candy will all go on sale. (You’re Welcome!)
I was at brunch yesterday with two sweet friends. (Because brunch is always a great idea!) Our stomachs were full of beyond-delicious crepes and expensive coffee. Conversation slowed from the inevitable food coma that was approaching. “Are y’all doing anything special for your hubs for Valentine’s Day?”, I asked.
Valentine’s Day at Home
I couldn’t help but laugh when one of my friends said that she couldn’t stand going out to eat for Valentine’s Day because, since all the restaurants have a ‘special’, she often can’t order what she normally does. They both wanted to just skip the fuss, save the money they’d drop on an expensive dinner, and have just a quiet, romantic night at home.
I’ve found that when you love your significant other well every day of the year rather than screaming it all on one day, Valentine’s Day becomes just another day. Another day to set the fire alarm off in your home, another day to surprise your person with something small they love, and another day to be a little extra sweet and show you care.
So how can you host the perfect little night with your forever Valentine at home?
When Rob and I were still in college, and my favorite sushi / Chinese restaurant was right down the road from my apartment. (Best part? They delivered!) I’m not going to lie. Some of my favorite nights with him were spent eating Chinese take-out on my couch in my pajamas with wine and a movie marathon on Netflix. I know I’m not the only one who has favorite nights like those either. Order your love’s favorite take-out and have it waiting for them when they get home.
Channel Your Inner Martha Stewart
If you’re a better chef than most and the lyric “burnt suppers the whole first year” doesn’t apply to you, channel your inner Martha to make your loved one’s favorite meal and dessert. Better yet, make them a meal that has significance to you both. For example, I like to sometimes make a variation of chicken an green beans for Rob on special occasions. It doesn’t sound special, but it was the first meal I ever made for him when we met in college! (Started from the bottom, now we’re here. Am I right?) Bonus points: Make it a surprise by running to the grocery store the day before on your way home from work!
Create a Romantic Setting
Whether you’re creating a romantic setting on your couch with Chinese take-out or your dining room table with your inner Martha, pair it with their favorite wine and some candles. Did you know candles make everything at least ten times more romantic than what you started with?Complete your table with a small centerpiece by picking up some flowers on your way out of the grocery store. Bonus points: Get the fireplace going, bring out the pillows and blankets, and have their favorite movie ready to press play!
Turn Off the Phones
In a society where we feel like we have to be constantly connected, it sometimes can kill us to be away from our phones. Spoiler alert: It won’t actually kill you! Grab one of those Chick-fil-A buckets if you have to and hide the phones. Take this distraction- free opportunity to engage in deeper conversation that can sometimes be lost in busy schedules.
Be Thoughtful and Creative.
Hosting the perfect Valentine’s Day at home doesn’t have to be like that scene in Sweet Home Alabama when she walks into an apartment full of roses “for every moment he thought about her” the night before. It also doesn’t have to be an expensive ordeal. Like I’ve mentioned before, I’m a sucker for the details that really speak from the heart. This year, be thoughtful and show them that you remember those little things they love so much.