Dating doesn’t stop at the altar.
Life is busy. In fact, we live in a society that tells us we are doing something wrong if we aren’t busy. For some reason, your packed schedule somehow got equated to your level of success in life. Time is a precious commodity in the world. Making time to date your spouse in a season of life that shows no signs of slowing down is saying you are worth my time.
I’ll admit, Rob and I both struggle to turn everything off at the end of the work-day. We’re both Type A and passionate about what we do, and that passion often overflows into the home. Not to mention, it’s hard to walk away from my home office at the end of the day. We bring our phones to the couch and mindlessly scroll through email and social media feeds with the Food Network on in the background. However, Rob’s still better at shutting everything off and going into his ‘nothing box’ than I am. I can’t turn my brain off, and I struggle to sit still. But, we found this time together wasn’t quality time. We were distracted, thinking about work and things we had to do, and we were tired. A while back, we decided to make a better effort of spending more quality time together.
(If you haven’t heard about Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage by Mark Gungor, watch about the difference between Men and Women’s brains, here! I promise you’ll thank me later after you get a good laugh- HA!)
It can be so simple.
Planning a date with your spouse doesn’t have to be an elaborate affair. Remember all those butterflies you had when you first met? You could just be in the same room together and it was the best day ever. (Don’t lie!) I remember my first date with Rob a few days after we met. He took me out to the ranch he worked on and let me pet cows and feed oatmeal cookies to miniature donkeys before he cooked me dinner. Needless to say, I was sold on date one.
We have found that it can be as simple as a meal out at our favorite foodie spots, a coffee treat at a new coffee shop, or (like in this post) an adventure outdoors. It’s not the place or the surroundings that matter. It’s the time you get with one another. Get out of your routine, and think outside of the box.
Make it happen.
Regardless of what you do together, make it a date. If you wait for the ‘perfect’ time to open up in your packed schedule, it’ll never happen. Commit to investing in your person and your marriage, and make it work.
Arabia Mountain Date Day
Coming from Texas, there isn’t anything like the North Georgia Mountains. It’s pretty much flat, and you can see the water towers of the neighboring towns miles away. When we moved to Georgia, we knew we had to explore. But, we didn’t know where. (or even really how!) All we knew is that we recently booked a trip to visit Zion National Park for our anniversary in June, and we needed to get ready for it.
This past weekend we had a more adventurous date day exploring Arabia Mountain. I fell in love with Arabia Mountain when I did planning and design for an elopement styled shoot with Amber from Gossett Photography, and I knew I needed to bring back Rob and the pup. What better way to spend Easter weekend than hiking and exploring in awe at all of God’s beauty in nature. We explored around for a few hours, and got a little over 4 miles of steps in by the time we reached the car. Thankfully, I remembered my camera this time, and I was able to snap some photos. It was the perfect day!
I just had to take a shot of our Aggie rings at the top! (It’s a Texas A&M thing 😉 )
The view from up there is just unreal. I am in love.
If you haven’t made a trip out to Arabia Mountain yet, I couldn’t recommend it more. Honestly, I feel like photos these photos aren’t giving this view any justice. It was the best feeling to disconnect, re-charge, and just explore. Needless to say, I’m already looking forward to our next adventure.